Comparison is the Thief of Joy

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Comparison is the Thief of Joy


This interview was fun to do because I know this family very well. This girl is amazing and one of her great strengths is her ability to make other people feel special. She loves to make cards for people and I have been the recipient of many of her homemade cards. If someone she knows has a birthday, she makes a card. If someone is not feeling well, she makes a card. She does this on her own, without any prompting from anyone. I love the saying “comparison is the thief of joy.” If you would compare her social skills to any other child, you would find that is a strength. I thought about this saying and how it compares to everyone. We all have things we are better at than others. People can look at a child with special needs and find all the things that the child can not do, but if you start looking at all the things she or he can do, you find joy. Look for joy and stop comparing that child to anyone else. Everyone has special gifts and talents. Comparison really is the thief of joy.


Q: What is one thing you wish teachers knew about your child that is not on the IEP?
A: N/A- Teachers seem to know her pretty well!

Q: Scores on tests do not define the child. What is something your child is really good at that is not reflected on tests?
A: Her social skills are exceptional! She gives compliments appropriately and initiates conversation better than most “typical” peers.

Q: How important is homework for your child? Is it just a burden, or is it a helpful learning tool?
A: Not important- unless it is practicing life skills such as cooking or cleaning

Q: How old was your child when you first knew he/she had special needs?
A: She was born with health issues, but we first noticed delays when she wasn’t walking at age 2(independently)

Q: What is one piece of advice you have for someone who has a newly diagnosed child?
A: As hard as it is, do not compare your child to others. All children are unique! Comparison is the thief of joy.

Q: What is one meal that everyone in your family likes to eat?
A: Crockpot lasagna shells- a Time to Dine with 109 original recipe 🙂

Q: What advice do you have for interacting with children with special needs?
A: Talk to them like any child; do not “dumb down” conversation. Include them!

Q: What activities do you recommend to other parents to foster self-care?
A: Exercise classes, book club, massage, nail appointments

Q: Are there any support groups that you recommend for parents or children?
A: N/A

Q: What are your favorite family activities?
A: movie night, game night, bowling


We can all learn from this girl. If everyone was as thoughtful of other people, readily able to compliment other people and initiate conversations as she does, the world would be a better place. Today look at each child and the special gifts that child brings to the world. It reminds me of that saying that every child is like a butterfly in the wind. Some can fly higher than others, but each one flies the best it can. Why compare one against the other? Each one is unique, each one is special and each one is beautiful.